Single and Fabulous

Birth of a Maneater

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Stork Maneater

Now that I’ve written a few posts, this would probably be a good time to shed a little light on why my site is called Memoirs of a Maneater.  You might be wondering why I chose this particular name when I’ve just been rambling on about how I like to do yoga…not exactly relevant.  I’ve actually had this phrase floating around my mind since college, when my friends and I joked that if I ever wrote an autobiography, it should be titled “Memoirs of a Maneater.”  (Shoutout to my college roommate who I’m sure is one of the 3 people that actually read this)

So how does one become a maneater?  Well for me it isn’t so much that I have oodles of men clamoring to date me and I just chew them up and spit them out.  (In all honesty, that’s only happened a few times)
It’s more about the fact that before I even turned 17, I made the decision that dating would not be a priority in my life.  I didn’t have a mission to find Mr. Right and I valued the friendships I had (and still have) with my girlfriends far more than any potential boyfriend.  I realized early on that the gossip and drama dating brought to my life was just not worth it.
I’m honest enough to say that I can be VERY cynical towards love and relationships.  I encountered some very poor excuses for young men in high school and those bad experiences stuck with me.  Since then, there have been plenty of men over the years that just didn’t stand a chance if they actually did want to date me.
Casual makeouts and sleepovers in college?  Sure, I was down with that.  But if a guy asked me out on an actual date or wanted to hang out more regularly I would shut them down without a second thought.  Like men typically act, I had the tendency to avoid anything that resembled commitment or could be labeled as official.  My relationship status on Facebook would forever be listed as single and no college boy was going to change that.  Thus, a maneater was born.
So now that I’ve given you a little background, expect to see some new posts soon about my antics and experiences dealing with men over the past decade.  Some good, some bad, and some just plain weird!

Single for the Holidays

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For all my single sisters out there-Let’s talk about being single for the holidays and why it’s sometimes difficult.

I know this feeling all too well and I’m sure others can relate.  You’re at a family gathering and an extended family member inevitably asks you if you’re dating anyone, when you’re going to get married, et cetera.  Here’s the thing:  it’s fine that they ask you this, but the reality is that IT’S OKAY TO BE SINGLE.  Really, it is!  It doesn’t matter if you’re 25 or 35, your worth should have nothing to do with whether or not you’re in a relationship.

In fact, here are some perks to being single for the holidays:

  • You don’t have to agonize over finding the perfect gift for your significant other.  Let’s be honest, women tend to put a lot more thought into gifts than men.  So this avoids a headache and is actually a major win for the single woman.
  • Less family gatherings to attend.  It can be seriously stressful trying to coordinate the holiday schedules of two different families and more often than not, you wind up hungover Christmas morning trying to psych yourself up for another family gathering that’s 200 miles away.  (From personal experience, it’s truly terrible)
  • You know that embarrassing relative that everyone has?  You don’t have to worry about them saying something inappropriate to your boyfriend if you don’t have one. 🙂
  • That midnight kiss on New Year’s Eve?  You actually have the opportunity to choose a man worthy of that honor.  And if you don’t find a man that’s up to par, who cares?  Just take a shot or share a quick peck with one of your girlfriends.  Or both! You’re single and can do what you want.  😉

Now I realize that there are also perks to being in a relationship during the holidays.  Sometimes it is nice to have a boyfriend to share these things with.  Well, maybe next year you will have someone special…Or maybe you won’t.  Either way, just remember that you are enough on your own.

Don’t settle for less than what you deserve just because all of your friends are engaged or married and you feel singled out.  It’s not worth sacrificing your self worth just to feel you like you’re following the rules of society.  Make your own path and inspire other single women not to settle either!

With that being said, I truly hope that anyone who reads this (even those of you who aren’t single) is having a wonderful holiday season.  Merry Christmas to all!